True Love is very different from the love that one proclaims in this world, though the love that is proclaimed in this world is in True Love, it is not the same thing.
In this world, what people call “love” varies from moment to moment. If someone doesn’t do what you want, or leaves you or doesn’t behave the way you want them to, then “love” is removed and even sometimes replaced by hate (which is still Love just riding on the emotion of anger).
Look at all the marriages that end in divorce, do you know two people that were madly in love only later to find they can barely stand the sight of the other. It is not that they didn’t Love one another, it is that they chose the concept of “love,” which is love described by those in this world, over True Love. True Love doesn’t mean you don’t get hurt, it doesn’t mean you stay together, it doesn’t mean anything at all … True Love just IS. It is when you can sit alone silently and look honestly at those that have touched your life ... everyone of them and know that it is Love that brought you together and it was the ideas of what Love should “look” like that pulled one apart.
Ever find yourself saying, “well, if he would only do this or she would only do that, if everything was only different from how it is, then I would love them.” But Love doesn’t have rules only you do. Love doesn’t pick and choose who it Loves, only you do. Love just IS and it has no boundaries and it has no limits. It has been the acceptance of the concept of what “love” should look like that hides that everything; is in Love.
You are in a constant state of Love. But when you find that the one you say “I Love You” too, leaves or dies or something happens to that one that you have projected “love” onto (and this isn’t saying there is anything wrong with doing that, just become aware that you are) and you find that you cannot keep anything in this world, everything disappears and reappears as something else, then when that one disappears, what remains is ... Love.
The pain you may feel at the loss; is also Love. Sorrow is Love. Happiness is Love. Joy is Love. Anger is Love. See we only want (usually) the Happiness or the Joy and Excitement of Love, but also the Sorrow, the Pain, the Depression of Love is just as important because all show the depths of Love. So when the one you love comes ... you experience the bliss of Happiness, Joy and Loving and when they go; you experience Pain, the Sadness, the Sorrow of the same.
As you begin to see this as a truth, then you can begin to put your attention on what the concept “love” appears IN … TRUE LOVE. It is not outside of you, you are IN IT.
If Love is the True State (which it is … without opposite) then it does not come and go, it is always there.
The way to begin to see this is to think of your child, if you have one, or someone that you love unconditionally. If you love them unconditionally, there is nothing they could do in this world to change that. So now you need to begin to look at “is there anything they could do in this world to change that?” If they could, then it is not Love.
True Love does not change because of actions or anything in this world. The closer you get to unconditional love the closer you get to Knowing True Love. And unconditional love begins to grow as you allow it to grow in you.
It also spreads compassion.
Not everyone will see things the way you do, but you have the space in you for all things to be. Let it spread out from your immediate family to everyone that comes in your orbit.
It doesn’t mean you have to do anything any other way than you always have, it just allows the space for people to be as they are. You will begin to stop wanting to change them, because you know that you love them in spite of how they are. It doesn’t mean you won’t act the same way you always have around them, but something in you will begin to pay attention to what everything appears IN, which is LOVE.